It doesn’t matter how old you are. When it comes to dating in New Hampshire, everyone has had that one relationship that was perfect. Nothing could go wrong. The relationship that is the hardest to get over and bounce back after is the one you gave your all to – your heart, soul, mental and emotional states, and tears. Even if the relationship was happy for years, there were a few tears and heartbreak, but it usually bounced back. This time, however, it didn’t. The last fight, there was no fixing it. Or, you just realized you fell out of love somewhere along the line. When you face a situation like this, where do you go? How do you find a way to be yourself again when, for so long, there were two? There is no easy answer, but a simple one is to find you again.
For many couples who last for more than five years, leaving each other can be impossible. There is so much time, and effort, put in that many couples attempt to make something that just can’t work right out because they cannot imagine how they can handle life without the other person. They are a major part of your life. If everything goes well, it ends on a good level, and you still have each other in your life because losing someone who knows everything about you can feel like losing a part of yourself. However, there are times where it ends badly, and that’s okay too. It is just another milestone.
Facing something like this can be difficult because what used to function as a unit is now drifting alone. The first thing we want to remind you is that ending a long-term relationship, whether it was 5 or 60 years, can be the best for you and the other person depending on how the relationship was going. Being in a loveless relationship is not healthy, and you both deserve to find the right person.
Once you end the relationship, it is important that you take the time to find yourself again. Some people think it is best to get right back into the dating scene. However, that is not the case. You need to re-assess who you are. You are not the same person as when you were in your relationship or even the last time you were single. You have grown and changed, found new interests and things you don’t like. Jumping back into the dating in New Hampshire scene is not the best idea because you need healing time. That is perfectly okay.
Take time to heal and recover yourself. Figure out what made the relationship dwindle and die out. Was it actions you did, they did, the stress of life? Just assess everything, and learn what you want to do for the future. You may not be ready to date again for another two years, and that is okay. Your heart will let you know when you are ready to date again, and then you can find the right person.
If you are not sure how to approach dating in New Hampshire again, call Together NH when you have reached your grieving limit for the past. We can help you start slowly edge into the dating scene and allow you to find that next individual who can fill the space you want to fill.
