Meeting people, especially these days, is difficult. Between working from home and life becoming increasingly virtual, singles are spending less time in the places where they would have met in the past. Some have turned to dating apps, but finding someone who wants a real relationship can be nearly impossible. That’s where Together NH comes in. A matchmaker and dating coach service, we hand-pick matches that are right for you.
Some people are lucky enough to meet someone they like without an app or a matchmaker, but that doesn’t erase first date jitters. No matter how you met, first dates are tricky. Whether you’ve been on a string of first dates or you haven’t been on a first date in years, here are some tips to help you land date number two.
This one might seem obvious, but enough of us have been on enough bad dates to know that it’s worth saying. Be on time. If you are going to be late, let your date know. Don’t leave them to assure skeptical servers that you’ll be there “any minute now” when they actually have no idea how long you’ll be. Speaking of servers, be nice to them! It sounds cliche at this point, but you can learn a lot about a person by how they treat restaurant servers and bartenders.
Just because you decided to meet at a certain place, it doesn’t mean that you have to stay there. If the place you picked turns out to be not what you expected and you’d rather go somewhere else, say so! There’s a good chance your date feels the same way. First dates are about getting to know each other. If the restaurant or bar you’re in is too loud to talk, there’s nothing wrong with asking your date if they’d like to go somewhere quieter. Don’t ruin what could be a good date by feeling locked in to a particular place.
Be a little awkward.
Getting set up by a matchmaker doesn’t mean that the first date won’t be a little awkward. That’s okay—expected, even. Every first date is a new experience; you are both doing this for the first time. Don’t be afraid to state the obvious and point out the situation is awkward. Acknowledging the awkwardness can break the tension and put both of you at ease. On a first date, you are both “the awkward one.”
Possibly another no-brainer, but we all need to be reminded from time to time. Your date agreed to go out with you because they want to get to know you. They are interested in pursuing a relationship with the real you, not some version of yourself you have chosen to project. This is not an excuse to present yourself poorly (remember: be polite!); a first date is not quite “warts and all territory.” Just don’t pretend to be someone you’re not. If the relationship continues, the other person will soon find out whether or not you were true to yourself on that first date.
Together NH: Matchmaker for singles in NH
Tired of the apps? Or are you ready to get back out there after a long time? Rather than going on date after date with people you are not compatible with, let a matchmaker do the hard part for you. Well, one of the hard parts. Our team of matchmaking professionals is dedicated to bringing couples together, and we want to do it for you, too!